My husband and I have been married for nearly 18 years, friends for nearly 30, so I KNOW my husband. About 5 years ago something changed in him, I noticed it immediately and at first thought just a bad day. But as time went on the bad day stretched into weeks at a time then months. He would work, come in, eat and fall asleep. Mid-sentence even, just gone. I begged him to get to a doctor. I knew he had sleep apnea, too many nights I had listened to his breathing and panicked when he would just stop, my heart pounding as I prepared to rouse him enough to breathe just to hear him gasp for air himself. But other things changed as well. Like, well, our sex life. It was practically non-existent. I tried everything, because I knew I had gained weight, I didn’t find me attractive so how could he. I talked, I asked, I pleaded and he would always say I don’t know, I am still attracted I just don’t feel like it. We went from sex that was ALWAYS 2-3 times a week to once a month if I was lucky. Then came the inability to stay aroused and it all came to a head the year my mom died. The stress of her constant illness, my lack of help from others and his lack of desire sent me into depression. Hard.
I confronted him one night and gave him an ultimatum, he either went to the doctor to find out what was going on, or we were through. I was hard enough on me without feeling like he was turned off by me, despite what he said his body language said different. He told me to set up the appointment and I refused, tired of always being the one to do things or they didn’t get done. If this marriage and relationship was important to him HE had to take the bull by the horns and make the appointment, period. A full battery of tests and some talking to our great PA who is the sweetest woman I know, led to more tests. Heart tests to ensure he wasn’t having any issues there, only to discover he had a heart she wished every one had. No blood pressure issues, no cholesterol issues, but 2 blood tests came back raising flags. His thyroid and his testosterone levels were way out of whack. Combine those with his horrible sleep apnea and you had the makings of disaster.
After getting his thyroid medications going she set him up with a urologist, who was just as awesome as she was. They both worked together to find the best treatment option for the Low T and after a month of gel applications decided the risks for our kids were too great that way and he went with injections instead. We were blessed that our insurance covered the majority of the expenses related to his therapy, including the other pills for lasting longer. Many insurance companies don’t, and I feel bad for the families who cannot get the medication they need because of some outdated belief that sexual arousal is not a necessity after a certain age. The issue goes beyond that. It attacks not only the man’s psyche and self esteem but his partners as well. It happens, often, more often than one might realize and it is happening to younger and younger men. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
The Teeple’s went through the same thing and their discovery of how prevalent this is led them to write a book and get the word out about the devastation LOW T and inaccuracies in its effects can be to the man and the woman. To get the word out they are giving away a copy of their book “I’m Still Sexy so what’s up with him” to one lucky reader.
Do you think your loved one may be having issues with LOW T?? Here are some facts about the issue:
Quick STATS on Low T
- Low Testosterone affects over 40% of men over 45 years old.
- Only 5% of these men will be diagnosed.
- Low Testosterone is nearly 100% curable.
Symptoms of having Low T
- Loss of Sexual Desire
- Unexplained Weight Gain
- Poor Concentration
Bottom line: A healthy testosterone level can be the key to supercharging your relationship, health, and sex life.
Here is a quick app created by the Teeples to test and see if a visit to your doctor is in order.. trust me it is worth it.
Make time as a couple, start date night, where you cannot carry the day’s or week’s frustrations with you. A place to go out and just be together as a couple, not mom or dad.
Bring back the romance to your marriage and the bedroom, stop making it as quick as possible and rediscover your partner and yourself. You may be surprised to learn that there are things that turn you on and him on you never knew about. Entry is easy.. simply leave a comment on your date night ideas or romance boosters. That’s it..
*In Accordance with FTC guidelines I was given this opportunity to host a giveaway of a book I think is a MUST read for every couple. Having had my own story that made it all the more important. I was not compensated in any way other than the product to be given away.